Sometimes we are in our heads because we are working on a project or activity that requires that gear, that skill. That's an appropriate use of that state.
But sometimes we are in our heads because we are in a state of hyper vigilance, of unconsciously seeking to control the external environment so that we can feel safe. This is a trauma and stress response, and it is a very expensive state to maintain. It's like playing whack-a-mole with our lives, mallet in hand, in high alert for the next eruption. We say we'll relax "when this happens, or that is over," ... except we never do.
And sometimes we are in our heads because we do not want to know what is happening inside the body. There is energy moving, there is discomfort or emotional pain, that we do not want to feel or acknowledge. Or, even more true, that we do not know HOW to feel or acknowledge.
Having awareness of our inner state is a powerful tool and first step in taking responsibility for the quality of our energy in our lives, and for restoring inner peace and wholeness in our lives.
As a culture we haven't been taught how to honor and manage our energy responsibly. Which means there is no blame or shame for our coping techniques or lack of awareness - after all, we cannot be expected to know what hasn't been modeled and taught to us.
But once we become aware of this pattern there is simply the choice: Will I perpetuate this pattern, or will I grow up?
Taking complete responsibility for the quality of energy that we put into the world is the act of growing up. It means we are no longer victims, we are powerful actors and creators.
There are tools and techniques for expanding and growing our awareness of the inner state, for consciously discharging cycling energy, and for shifting ourselves back into an embodied state of inner wholeness. The Embodied Root Wholeness process is one such path for taking complete responsibility for the quality of our energy in our lives. If this rings true and you'd like more information, please reach out for a FREE 15 minute chat. I'd love to connect.
Norma Van Horn