I see that I hold worry for you.
That there is a circumstance, or a situation, or a potential outcome
That I worry that you cannot handle.
In truth, there was a circumstance, a situation, or an outcome
That I couldn't handle.
It hurt too much.
It still does.
This worry is about me, it's not about you.
I take complete responsibility for the pain.
I see it. I feel it. I honor it.
And I release it all now, from the deepest root cause, and return it back to the highest original source, with honor for all.
This was never about you.
It was always about me.
I free myself now, and thank you for the message.
The Body Is The Subconscious Mind.
So says Candace Pert, who wrote a book by that title. I confess, I haven't read the book, but the title is outstanding.
And so very true.
Here is what the woods told me this morning:
Resistance, pain, disturbed peace, etc, in any form, means the body is experiencing feelings of being threatened. In this way, resistance, pain, disturbed peace is a Messenger. The body is experiencing a reenactment of a painful experience, and reacting.
It is not (or, rarely) about whatever is actually happening in that specific moment that is the problem. When those feelings are activated, it is because something is whisper-touching an original, core wound. It is (generally, usually) a call to heal the underlying energetic pattern - not to change anything about the specific circumstances that - on the surface - appear to be causing the pain.
Disturbed peace in the body is an invitation. The Messenger is carrying an invitation to heal.
It is always up to us what we do with that invitation. We can confuse the messenger with the message, and fight with the surface circumstances, and stay stuck, or we can see the Messenger for the invitation that it carries, and choose to heal.
But...don't confuse the Messenger with the message. It is always about the Messenger, it is never about the message.
Thank you, nature.xoxoxo
Sharing the Peace Power Path process with kids/teens is amazing. They release so quickly, and respond so completely. It is a joy. Today I did the Peace Power Path with both my kids. It was a profound, beautiful experience, and I learned something new to share: The body doesn't lie.
The Peace Power Path is an energetic self-healing tool that combines self-reflection with energy release. Watching, feeling, the energetic movements within the body is a key tool to knowing when we are ready to release (specifically feeling the barrier over the heart). But watching/feeling energy movements in the body can be tricky for some people, or at least some of the time.
But, as Dr. Candace Pert says, "Your Body is Your Subconscious Mind." (The title is brilliant, although I confess I haven't read the book.) It's completely true, and tracking bodily movements is a valuable tool in this process.
As we sat on the couch talking through the first step, which is listening for core statements and watching energetic movements, I began to notice something else: their bodies were moving. Resisting. As we talked, they covered their mouths with objects (pillow, tshirt, blanket) shifted position, tensed legs, physically retreated, and turned their heads away.
Together, we started talking about the movements: Look at what's happening - your body is resisting this. Isn't that fascinating? Look at that, you just turned away from me completely! Watch me while I show you what you just did.
Modeling for them elicited a laugh of recognition, and the process shifted to being more lighthearted.
And also, "This is amazing! Your body is resisting this so much, that's so awesome - that means we're really on to something. Now, let's return to a relaxed, open position and watch some more."
This became [them], "But it doesn't hurt that much." "Yes, but your body is resisting! Your brain and your body are not in harmony - can you see that?"
Talking about how their bodies were moving while talking about and testing core, pain statements provided another clue for following the statements even deeper. It was a tangible step in an otherwise (somewhat) intangible process.
So...try it, and let me know how it goes for you!
Message from the woods: Energy must be honored. All of it. Rather than judging an energy to be “good” or “bad,” instead discern whether an energy feels good to you, or doesn’t feel good to you. And move accordingly.
“At the innermost core of all loneliness is a deep and powerful yearning for union with one’s lost self.” ~Brendan Behan
What nature has taught me, as many times as I have forgotten, is that we can recover, restore, reclaim our connection to our True Nature. Disconnection is temporary, and we can release the barriers any time we choose. But...it is a choice. Therein lies our power. To choose it. To choose to heal ourselves; to look within, face the fear, and to trust the process.
Dignity vs Deference
Dignity: the state or quality of being worthy of honor or respect
Deference: seeking respect, honor, approval from another. Submissive.
As a state of being, these two are mutually exclusive. We cannot simultaneously embody both at the same time. This culture swims in deference, we think that if other people value something, or us, then it makes us "safe."
True power is an internal state of dignity, it needs nothing from the outside.
The good news is that it is possible, and easy!, to shift our internal state from deference to dignity. And to remove the energetic pattern that uses deference as a coping technique.
All that is needed to shift from deference to dignity is to follow the simple, reproducible, teachable steps of the Peace Power Path:
1. Recognize it
2. Honor the underlying pain
3. Release it
Find out how, here.
Dignity, peace, and power feel so damn good!
How much time and energy do we spend every day, ruminating on what another has done to us, or not done for us, or how they have affected us in some way? Maybe they didn't respond the way we felt we needed/deserved/wanted. Maybe they didn't love us how we felt we needed to be loved. Maybe they offended, rejected, hurt, us in some way, big or small.
How much time every day do we spend in disturbed peace by the actions of another?
A lot. These painful, unmet emotional needs are on a constant loop in our heads, affecting our peace, our energy, and our lives.
And, there is no need, ever, to be affected by the choices or behavior of another. They are sovereign beings. We are a sovereign being. We come together when both say "yes!" and we go our separate ways if one or the other says "no." It's truly as simple as that.
But instead, we have agendas for others. At the root, we want to control their response to us, their behavior. We want them to change so that we can be happy. In the framework of the Peace Power Process, that is using force over another. It disconnects us from our own source of power and peace - which is always whole and complete and peaceful, regardless of what is happening on the outside.
In truth, other peoples behavior only affects us because we believe that it means something about us. If we follow the pain or fear inside deeply enough, at its root, is a belief that there is something fundamentally wrong, flawed, monstrous, awful, etc about us. That is why it hurts so much. That is the deepest wound that we believe/fear the behavior of another means.
And, after hundreds of experiences of using the Peace Power Process with myself and others, the freeing news is that these beliefs are never true.
The deepest underlying painful belief is only a coping technique acquired through living with others that are also using their coping technique for surviving what our emotions cannot understand. They are stories that we believe about ourselves...and, they are never true. As Rumi famously said, "Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it." These beliefs are the barriers we hold to knowing our true nature.
It is possible to release the barriers, these painful underlying energetic patterns and beliefs, that we hold within ourselves that need the approval, love, acknowledgement, control, validation, admiration, support, like, filling, reflection, completion, to be seen, etc, of another.
And, on the other side of this pain is a freedom so complete, a peaceful sense of fullness so full, a reconnection to our own innate human power, that it actually feels Divine. And we truly need nothing from anybody, to be happy. Everything is perfect, just as it is. And we are in complete integrity, in the original meaning of the word (meaning: wholeness).
This is the act of growing up. Of taking complete responsibility for our own happiness, within ourselves, by ourselves, for ourselves. We need nothing from anybody - our cup is so full that we are only able to express love.
And, this awareness and power are completely possible, reproducible, teachable, and available to everyone, at any time. We are all wired for this connection to this innate part of ourselves. It is our deepest truth, its only been covered over by painful coping techniques, the barriers.
The Peace Power Path is an energetic self-healing tool that restores our connection to, and awareness of, our innate personal peace and power. Our True Nature.
It's a gentle, reproducible, teachable process of reflection and release, which removes the barriers we hold within ourselves to knowing our true power, our innate personal peace. Of restoring our connection to that timeless, full and complete part of ourselves.
The result is greater clarity, increased personal awareness, feeling more grounded, feelings of freedom and wholeness, deepened connection to ourselves, healed relationship dynamics, a more opened heart, and more. Peace, power.
Removing these layers of the onion, over time and with practice, create larger shifts and even deeper transformation.
Here's how it goes:
1. See it.
See the need: "I see this painful underlying energetic pattern, this acquired coping technique, this painful belief of using others to complete me, fill me, reflect me, see me, support me, like me, acknowledge me, love me, admire me, validate me, approve of me, etc. [Fill in the blank.]"
Go a layer deeper, and see what it really means about you. Ask yourself, "What does this mean about me?" and wait for the deeper, more painful, most shameful answer to emerge. Your body wants you to know. And, trust that whatever is revealed is not true. But seeing what is being released is part of the process.
2. Honor it.
"I see that I acquired this shield, this energetic pattern: from my family, from my culture, from my ancestors, from trauma. And I repeated it. This coping technique, this belief, kept me safe when I didn't know how to keep myself safe. I survived what I needed to survive. For this I give it honor."
3. Release it.
"Because I acquired and repeated this painful energetic pattern, I can release it. I can give it back. I can unlearn it. This coping technique, this painful belief, keeps me small."
And then, "My true nature is fearless and wild and free. When I carry this coping technique, I am unable to carry all that is fully and uniquely mine to carry. I now choose differently."
And finally, "I release this painful underlying energetic pattern fully, at its deepest root connection, and return it to the highest original source, with honor and gratitude and love for all."
Norma Van Horn