The ONLY reason we don't love, trust, honor, enjoy, relish, embody, appreciate, etc ourselves is because we were taught not to.
We were not born overriding the truth in our bodies, seeking external validation, and judging/denying/rejecting parts of ourselves.
Let me repeat that: We were not born overriding the truth in our bodies, seeking external validation, and judging/denying/rejecting parts of ourselves.
These are learned behaviors.
We learned these behaviors from (hopefully) very loving people that simply believed the lie themselves, modeled it, and perpetuated it.
(And then we learned the lesson faithfully and now model and perpetuate it ourselves...just in case you think you're a victim.)
This pattern is ancient. It goes way back. And it is NOT personal.
These beliefs were acquired, and because they are not innately true, they can be released.
But, inner peace and wholeness and bliss does not choose us. We must choose it.
And so, when we become aware of the patterns, when we find ourselves disembodied or judging ourselves (or others), when we find that pain is running the show, we have the opportunity to release the ancient energetic pattern.
Any time we are disconnected from our bodies, or in a state of disturbed peace, we are running a pattern. And activated patterns are ready to be released. The Embodied Root Wholeness process is one way of releasing the patterns, permanently and completely, at the deepest root cause and connection.
And the result is a reconnection with our wholeness, our peace, our divinity.
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Rather than building self-confidence, whatever that is, focus on building self trust. We build self trust by listening and honoring, that’s it. It is eminently doable, simply a matter of focus and choice.
We listen to the messages the body is giving, and we honor and follow are yeses, and honor and walk away from our nos.
It is natural to follow our yeses and honor our nos. The only reason we would not do so because we are prioritizing an external reward structure over our internal truth.
So then, anytime we see ourselves resisting either path, we know that a culturally conditioned program is active.
When we see a culturally conditioned program is active, there is an opportunity to release that pattern and restore our connection with our wholeness, our truth.
And then we are free.
The etymology of the word "radical" is 'of the root.' In other words, our deepest truth.
The etymology of "healing" means 'to make whole.'
The path of 'radical healing' is to make us whole at the root, to fuse our deepest truth with our wholeness, and live from there.
In a sense radical healing is the simplest of paths - it requires nothing more of us than to live from the deepest truth and wholeness. No special doctors, no special treatments, no special equipment..no legitimate, actual barriers.
But, in practice, nothing about this path is easy.
To live from our deepest wholeness and trust is actually revolutionary. It makes us uncontrollable to the external control structures.
But the payoff is huge: freedom, sovereignty, peace. And once we have a taste of the good stuff flowing unceasingly from an inexhaustible, abundant wellspring within, we will never look on the outside for this experience again.
We will never look among the branches for what that which can only be found among the roots.
And then: peaceful, sovereign, free, and whole, embodying our deepest truth, we will make radically different choices on the outside. Because we cannot create on the outside but we do not embody on the inside. And so, this is how we change the world. Embodying our wholeness and our truth, and then doing the next right thing. It is an inner act of revolution, long before it is an act on the outside. But when we do act, it carries the energetic signature of our true, innate, human power.
And it is good. It is exactly the medicine that the world needs right now.
When we heal ourselves, we heal the whole world.
There is no greater purpose in life, no matter what we spend our days “doing.”
And, in this way, we are all healers. Magicians, sorcerers. Embodying heaven on earth. Bringing the divine to life.
With honor for all, amen.
It 'others' us, it creates in-groups and out-groups. It says some people are ok and some are not, or some parts of us are ok and some are not. This belief controls us and makes us edit our own behavior. It makes us judge and question our truth, and it makes us small.
The belief is a contruct of man, it is made up. And, it is fear based, stemming from a core belief that we are disconnected from our own innate divinity, our innate wholeness, our innate inner peace.
The deeper truth is that we are all innately perfect, innately whole, innately peaceful, and innately divine.
We are all aspects of the Great Creator, of the Divine Source of All. It takes an incredible amount of diversity to comprise and represent the whole of all, and every aspect of everything, everywhere (seen and unseen) is an aspect of the same Source. And so we are all, ALL, divine, all the time.
In my ReWilding work, I take people into the woods where we explore energy practices to remember how to listen to our deepest truth again. A woman from a nearby city recently came out with her friend. She shared that she is a highly functioning autistic person, and that she works with high special-needs students in a public high school, where her students are mentally, physically, and emotionally 'disabled.' She is regularly struck/harmed while doing her work, but the unique way that her brain works makes her a perfect fit for this work because she could understand her students and not take their behavior personally. She thrives in this environment, and calls work her 'happy place.'
As further evidence of this fit - the turnover in her department is 100% every year, however she has been there 10 years with no plans to leave.
This is extraordinary, and a perfect example that there is a place for everyone, and we need everyone's unique talents and truths to be fully unleashed and available into the world for the whole to be healthier and stronger, so that we can all be all that we can be.
The opportunity is to release all labels, identities, judgements and fears that are created through the belief of our disconnection, and instead choose to restore our connection with our inner truth*, with our innate wholeness, and with our innate inter-connection with the life that is happening all around us. And then simply trust ourselves, and do the next right thing.
It's pretty simple, actually.
In a world that teaches us not to trust our truth, it is a radical act of love to trust ourselves, and to share that truth generatively and generously with the world.
And it feels so damn good.
*The Embodied Root Wholeness process is one way of restoring our connection. If this resonates and sparks within you, please reach out for a free 15 minute chat. I'd love to connect.
“Your children are not your children.They are sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you.
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the make upon the path of the infinite, and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness.
For even as He loves the arrow that flies, so He also loves the bow that is stable.”
It is natural to be brilliant. It is natural to be fearless and wild and free. It is natural to be whole and complete and peaceful.
Cultural conditioning teaches us otherwise. It teaches us to look outward for safety, validation, and control instead of embodying and trusting our truth with every cell of our being.
So, now that we remember this, when, where, how will we let this pattern go?
Many of us feel drawn to finding our "purpose," to feeling like our lives have meaning. So we seek an external act or role or contribution in order to find this meaning.
But in reality we are actually feeling disconnected from our own internal awareness of feeling meaningful, of feeling whole and peaceful and alive. And so we seek something "out there" that will provide those feelings within us.
We look outside in order to feel better inside. This is ineffective, disempowered, and temporary at best.
And when we rely on any particular circumstance to be present on the outside in order to feel a particular way on the inside we are vulnerable to the state of the outer world for our own inner wellbeing.
This is disempowering.
The deeper truth is that we cannot create on the outside what we do not embody on the inside. So, rather than seeking external things to fill an inner hole, it is more empowering to reconnect with our own inner disconnection, and then bring our wholeness to the world.
Because, as Mother Teresa said, there are no great (outer) acts, only small acts with great (inner) love.
Here's a quick 3-step path to finding your peace, finding your power, finding your purpose:
1. What changes do you want to see in the world? What are the biggest problems "out there?" What qualities do you seek to experience through the fulfillment of your dream/achievement/purpose?
2. Open your heart to embodying these qualities within yourself, right now. Release all the barriers you hold within yourself to fully embodying these qualities right here, right now. (Embodied Root Wholeness Process can help.)
3. Do the next right thing. And fill the world with the energetic signature of your whole, peaceful, complete self.
Norma Van Horn