Truthiness is up in our house right now.
Today my son and I talked about how, when we lie to another, we are really lying to ourselves first.
When we lie to another we do so in order to keep the peace, to feel safe, to maintain an illusion, etc. We are trading our safety for our truth. This is one way in which we learn to feel safe in the world and... it is an illusion.
When we fear the rejection of another, or fear that they can't handle our truth, what we really fear is that we can't handle the truth of another, or that we can't handle rejection from another. It is always a reflection of our own fear, it is never about another person. (We're simply not that altruistic!)
So. Our power is in seeing this fear for what it is, and honoring it.
And then, if we really want to feel empowered, we put 3 yeses into the world. Immediately.
Nothing frees us more than using our power to put yeses in the world. A yes is our truth, our wishes, our dreams, our desires. Maybe it's an invitation to someone that excites us. Or sharing something personal with someone. Or speaking a truth - if only to ourselves. It doesn't matter. What matters is that we release more truth into the world.
When we have hidden a part of ourselves, the antidote is to reveal, express, or act on a hidden part of ourself.
Norma Van Horn