Approval

Do you see that when you seek approval from another, you are seeking permission?

And, when you seek permission, you are controllable.  (Someone could refuse permission.)

Approval and permission live in the land of right/wrong, good/bad.  External perceptions, which cycle in the head.

Our truth is deeper than that.  It lives in the land of true/untrue, which lives in the body.

If something is true, it is true.  It is not malleable to the external winds.

So when you find yourself doubting, seeking approval, seeking validation, sink deeper inside to the place where truth lives.  And plug the holes to honoring that.