A predator is defined as a person or group that ruthlessly exploits another. Using another for one’s own benefit. When we use another, we seek to control them.
I see this most clearly in our political system. We seek to control others, so that we can feel more comfortable in the world. We seek to control their bodies, their sexuality, their lifestyle, their habits, their behavior. When we seek to control another, we seek to dominate them. To assume that we know what is best for them. Controlling another gives us a feeling of safety, of control. But it is actually the opposite of power. It is force, it is not power. When we seek to change another person, for any reason, we have abdicated our well-being to the behavior of another. If they do what makes us feel safe, we feel ok. If they do something we do not agree with, we feel upset. Our well-being is at the hands of how strangers life their lives. Talk about powerless!
When we have an agenda, we have forgotten our place in the group. In truth, we are all equal. We, humans, are all equal. But when we seek to control another, we assume a position of being bigger than them. When we are controlled by another, we assume the position of being smaller than them. This is madness. Humans are all always equal. We all have agency, the ability to make decisions for our own lives.But our power only ever resides in our own agency, our ability to effect change in our own lives.
Our greatest power comes from being right sized in the group, and doing what is ours to do. Controlling another is never ours to do. That is an abuse of power. True, full, power resides in being right sized and doing what is uniquely ours to do. Nothing more, nothing less. Trusting every other human being to do the same for themselves.
Ironically, true power comes from giving up all control over another being. It resides in knowing our true power and agency, and using that right-sized power that is uniquely ours, to serve and honor all those that do not have agency or authority. That is correctly assuming our place and the natural order.
It is about what we do for others, Not about what others do for us. And no one can give us the power of our agency, it is ours to claim. We claim it when we cede all control over any other being. We see our agendas and release them. And turn our attention to that which is ours to do for the truly less powerful among us. Power is derived from agency. Assuming our rightful place in the interdependence of life. Acting in service of those which cannot act on their own, rather than this mad scramble to acquire more crap, to consume beyond our needs. The mad desire to accrue more crap takes us farther from our true power. Our true power is emptiness and flow and peace. It is being right-sized in the group. True power comes from being right sized. Not too big, not too little, with honor for all.
We are all equals. Seeking to control that which is equal is an abuse of power
It is only when we are right sized that our divinity can flow. Giving up control over others opens us up to Devine Bliss. From predator to pray.
Norma Van Horn