Remember this feeling? Freedom in nature, in the sun, full of life. And then, ... remember when it was lost?
- From the youngest of ages we are taught to deny our True Nature, our deepest truth.
- We are taught this by the most loving people in our lives, who only do so because this is how they were taught to be safe in the culture, to be socially acceptable to others.
- Saying yes when we mean no, doing activities when we want to rest, believing we have to achieve things in order to be loved, learning rules for making other people feel happy at the expense of our own truth and wholeness and happiness.
- We judge the worthiness of others by their ability to integrate and regurgitate and live by these same rules.
- This distorts us from the inside, and this denial of our truth is the price of assimilation within the power structure.
- This is called "domestication," by Don Miguel Ruiz (The Four Agreements).
- Domestication disconnects us from our deepest truth, our True Nature. It teaches us to override our truth in order for others to be happy, that we cannot trust our truth.
- This means that from the youngest of ages, we believe we have the power to harm those we love the most simply by being ourselves.
- The fact that our True Nature, our truth, can harm those we love the most implies that there is something *wrong* with us.
- This is an incredibly painful belief...and it is untrue.
- But, our deepest truth makes us uncontrollable, and so we are taught to deny it.
- Our deepest truth is actually the holiest thing about us (John the Evangelizer).
- When we deny our deepest truth we cut ourselves off from our wholeness, our holiness, our connection with the Divine.
- This separation, this split, gets reinforced and validated in every way throughout the culture.
- It is dead wrong, and we know it in the pain we hold in our bodies, we just don't have healthy models for seeing it clearly and changing it.
- Healing is a matter of seeing this clearly, and choosing to relate to our lives differently. Of listening to the truth in our bodies, trusting it, and living from that truth.
- The path to wholeness is a path of choosing to reconnect with our True Nature, with our wholeness and holiness...and trusting everyone around us to handle it.
- This is an act of growing up, of taking responsibility for our pain...and taking responsibility for our love.
- When we are responsible for our own love, we no longer look to others to make us whole, to validate us. We no longer need anyone to change on the outside for us to be happy, we no longer need to control another thing.
- This is an ongoing process. Everything in our culture tells us differently, and we do not currently have healthy models for embodying this truth.
- That's ok. We are all capable of, and responsible for, healing ourselves. Doing so removes the hooks from our relationships, and frees the people in our lives to simply be themselves. And us, too.
- And it is deeply healing.
- Claiming freedom is an internal act of revolution. Nobody can give it to us, nobody can take it from us.
- The truth shall set us free.
(And, we can remove the energetic barriers that hold some of the pain in place. The Peace Power Path is one way. If this speaks to you, ask me how.)
Norma Van Horn