Are boundaries up in your world right now? Same! It's so awesome. (Truly.) Boundary violations show us where we are out of integrity with *ourselves.* Where we value an external perception of 'safety' over fidelity to our inner truth. This is not about right/wrong or good/bad, this is way deeper: It is about true and untrue. About embodying our truth. And when we prioritize external 'safety' in any form - whether through approval, status, hierarchy, to keep the peace, whatever - over upholding, honoring, and embodying our internal truth, we are going against our wholeness.
And that hurts.
And, it is a form of manipulation. Repeat/restate: when we do not honor our boundaries we are being manipulative of others.
It is critical that we see this. Until we see the truth of this, and take responsibility for it, we will feel like a victim. We are not. We are being manipulative.
And, we learned this, and all, of our coping techniques - which means we can unlearn them.
Our coping techniques are activated by energy - which means energy work can help heal the pattern. Releasing and healing the underlying energetic patterns of our coping techniques is teachable/learnable, reproducible, and consistent. Effective. And, only you can do it.
p/c: Holly Whitaker
Norma Van Horn