The behavior of another hurts because it is a place where we still harm ourselves. Otherwise we simply see it for what it is: another persons coping technique. Another person’s pain. Why would we ever take another person’s pain personally? Instead of with compassion? Because it points to our pain, and in that way we are entangled. Until we see it clearly and choose to release it.
To choose the deeper truth beneath it.
And...we have to feel how being shackled feels on the inside in order to release it. We have to choose freedom. This choice is the act of growing up. And we have to choose freedom on the inside before we see freedom on the outside.
Norma Van Horn