As the old buddhist adage goes, 'how we do anything is how we do everything.' Our stress responses are our stress responses, and they are what we all turn to when fear gets triggered. There is no moral high ground in stress responses, they are all our ingrained, culturally (and personally) conditioned ways of trying to feel safe in an unsafe moment. Of controlling our environment.
By definition, we use them when we feel unsafe, when we have left our bodies. "Turning toward the light," or high vibration aspirations, or denying what is happening, are as much a stress response as any other. The people putting these messages into the world are in pain also.
Asking someone to change their behavior so that we can feel peaceful, or not shamed, or not judged, is also a stress response based on controlling the outside environment. It predicates our wellbeing on another person changing their behavior so that we don't feel ... something.
It would be ideal to see any behavior that is not grounded in *peace,* by anyone, as a stress response, and as such to see it with compassion, rather than asking anyone on the outside to change.
And then, to heal ourselves by seeing that any time we feel disturbed peace it is a radical call inward, to honor the pain, and to embody the body.
"I honor your path," is all we ever need to give anyone.
Blessings for the road.
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Norma Van Horn