The part of the brain that feels feelings is different than the part of the brain that uses words. In fact, the two different parts of the brain don’t even talk to each other. Which means, when we feel painful feelings of any type, this part of the brain cannot communicate to the other part why we feel the feelings. All it can do is feel the feelings. Our other part of the brain then leaps into action and tries to “figure it out,” so it can “solve it.” Except it has no access to the actual feelings. It’s a bystander. We are using 2 different parts of our brain that don’t talk to each other. Both are islands, doing their respective work, completely independent of each other.
Which makes figuring out why we feel bad almost impossible.
And yet, analyzing why I feel bad is a most favored diversion (MFD) of mine, a favorite past time. And, it is a habit that prevents me from actually facing the pain and healing it. Wasted time. A distraction, diversion, and disassociation. A hamster wheel.
One of the most empowering lessons of the past 2 years in the woods is the idea that I don’t ever need to know why I feel bad, I only need to recognize when I do feel bad, and give the painful energy pattern back to the highest original source.
I never need to know why, I only need to heal it. Give it back. Done.
Any effort to figure out “why” can never be accurate any way - the words are separated from the feelings. I am only guessing, or applying former thinking or experiences to the situation.
Another favorite past time is to project my feelings. Sometimes I find myself wanting to “make my kids happy.” This desire takes over, and I find myself obsessing over their happiness. This is also a habitual deflection that prevents me from seeing that I really want to “make me happy.”
Anything I want to see on the outside I am really, truly, calling my attention to to give it to myself.
And, fortunately for me, the solution is the same for all of the painful, fearful, habituated thinking: just give the painful energetic pattern back to the highest original source.
Problem solved. It really is that easy.
Norma Van Horn