To my children

There is a place that only you can fill in this family.  It is *your* place, and we need you in it.  Your truest, deepest, self is needed in this place.  As your parents, we have different roles within the group, with different respective responsibilities, but everyone in this group is equal.  And this group needs all of all of us. 

(And...when you disengage from us into technology, and are physically present but not emotionally present, it hurts the group.  That's why we have limits.)