We take the behavior of another person personally because, deep inside, we believe that it means something painful about us. When we remove that energetic pattern, that untrue belief, we no longer take it personally. It's that simple.
The Peace Power Path is one way to remove the underlying energetic barriers, the barriers over our heart, that disconnect us from our True Nature. Our True Nature is our innate, human power. When we are connected with our True Nature, we see the behavior of another as a reflection of their own learned coping techniques, and we no longer take their behavior personally.
The behavior of another only hurts because we believe it means something. It truly never does. This belief is an acquired coping technique. By taking responsibility for our own acquired coping techniques, we can heal and then remove the underlying energetic pattern from our bodies. This removes, heals, the thorns from our paws, those people, places, actions, we take personally.
Removing the acquired coping techniques heals painful relationship dynamics.
We clean our own pain first, and then (and only then) do we engage with another person.
To repeat, we heal relationship dynamics by:
1. Recognizing our own coping techniques in action
2. Releasing our coping technique
3. Then, and only then, when we are released and calm, are we ready to engage with our partner, sibling, parent, etc. We speak our truth, and we listen to the truth of another. And then we move accordingly.
Norma Van Horn