Where we judge (or feel judged by) another we are entangled with it/them. We believe we know better for it/them what is right for their life than they do. This overrides their (our) sovereignty, how could we (they) possibly know better than they (we) do what is right in their (our) life?
Where we are entangled shows us where we are not yet free, where we leak our power. In this state we take responsibility for something that is not ours - their fate. (Or we give them responsibility for ours.)
Freedom lies in honoring their (our) fate, releasing it back to them (us), and respecting the sovereignty of all.
Norma Van Horn