Become like this:
Next time you meet Him in the forest
Or on a crowded city street
There won't be anymore
God will climb into
You will simply just take
~Daniel Ladinsky interpretation, Poems by Hafiz
When we hold a grudge, we seek to control another.
What we seek to control is simply a pointer, a place, where we do not yet trust ourselves (or another, it's the same thing). Where we hold hardness, not softness.
I didn't actually hurt you, I showed you where you hold pain, a lack of wholeness.
And vice versa. You didn't actually hurt me, you showed me where I hold pain, a lack of wholeness.
Clean yourself and your pain, and I will do the same, and then we'll talk.
(Except we probably won't need to, because we no longer take the actions of the other personally.)
One way to clean oneself is the Peace Power Path.
"Because if there is a God — and I want my words to be exact — if God is a reality, if God’s attributes are infinite knowledge, infinite power, and omnipresence, then there is nothing outside of God. Period."
~ Daniel Ladinsky, The Sun Magazine article (https://www.thesunmagazine.org/issues/454/something-missing-in-my-heart)
Photo credit: https://www.whoistbone.com/marfa
If the truth of another upsets us, it is because we seek to control them. It is a place we are entangled, which simply means we are not whole, where we are not yet free. And, any place we do not see and honor the equality, sovereignty, truth, and dignity of another, we do not yet see and honor it in ourselves. The opportunity is to catch the response, see the true root cause, and choose to take complete responsibility for the place where *we* are not yet whole. To choose to grow up, and claim freedom.
Namaste, y’all. Blessings for the road.
Pain. We all hold it. It is the way of our culture, to hoard and deny and suppress our pain, using all of our usual coping techniques, and then have it leak out sideways. Or to blame another, or ask others to change so that we don’t have to take responsibility for our pain. It is what we are taught and it is all we know. Looking at our pain is the holiest thing we can do, because when we don’t honor it, we pass it on. And so, when the pain is activated, the choice is ours. Will we take the holy road, and honor, integrate, and transform it? Or will we take the same road we always take, and hold it and hoard it and transmit it to another. The choice is ours.
Peace Power Path.
Realizing that I “know” so much more than I need to. Realizing that I *feel* so much less than I need to. (Pretty sure my quest for certainty never made me actually, truly safer in the world.). The only thing I ever really need to know is found right in this moment. Right now, just for today, may Peace be my North Star.
Selfie!! Actually, not. But it feels that way in the inside😊. Because... embodying this body, this energy, this pain, this moment, is my path to spiritual liberation. Holiness. In this way, this body is a church, where the divine and the material meet.
Photo credit: Paul Nicklen @paulnicklen
If anything I said or did triggered you, offended you, hurt you, it is yours to heal.
And, if anything you said or did triggered me, offended me, hurt me, it is mine to heal.
That is where our freedom, and our power, is.